My great grandma is dieing.

[maevebran]

Just got home from visiting her and all I can say is that was not my grandma. She was asleep and looked like a breathing corpse. We didn't stay long as I didn't know what to say. I'm not particularly close to her but she has always been around. When she was in her eighties and we were in Hawaii at Christmas she'd go snorkleing with us. Today she looked like literal skin and bones. I don't want to remember her like this she was always full of life.

This is the great grandma who turned 100 in July.

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[discodiva76.livejournal.com]

((((Maeve)))) my heart goes out to you......I know what you're going through....

My Grandad died aged 102 in 2003...well he was only 3 months off being 103 and it was so sad to see him fade away so quickly.....he'd managed to live on his own, with a little home help, until about 9 months before he died....once he moved into hospital and then a care home he just gave up....

It's not the best way to end your days but cling on to the times when your Gt Grandma was her vibrant healthy self...it's hard but it's definitely the best way for your peace of mind....

Am thinking of you and your family at this sad time....


Love Deeds xxxxx

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I'm not particularly close to her but she has always been around. She has always been so lively. She even got the hang of email and if her web tv went down, my dad had to go fix it. That was last year. but the last few weeks she wnet down hill.
But thanks for the good thoughts. This going to be really hard on my mom and her mom.

[jj-blue.livejournal.com]

*hugz*

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[gioia-gg.livejournal.com]

((Hugs)) I'm so sorry to hear.
don't know what to say. I hope at least she's had a happy life.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks. I think she did have a happy life. She had two daughters, five grandchildren, eight great grandkids (I think that is the correct number(, and two great great grandkids. So yeah I think it was happy. She was so proud to live to see 5 generations togeather.

[emony2.livejournal.com]

*hugs*

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[curiouswombat.livejournal.com]

I am glad that you went to see her. Now you know that she seems to be slipping away quietly, and there will be none of the guilt that you may have felt,needlessly, if you had not visited before she died.

Store this picture of her away in your mind, and bring the mental picture of her snorkelling to the front of it.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

I will try. It was very hard.

[a2zmom.livejournal.com]

I'm so sorry for both of you. I hope if this is her time to go, she does so easily.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

I hope so too. She was asleep and the hospice caregivers said she had been like that all day so hopefully no pain.

[webtarkeena.livejournal.com]

Sorry to hear this. I watched (from a distance - similarly I was not terribly close at the time) both my GG and my Grandpa go quite slowly from Alzheimers / Dementia. For both of them the end (which came in a big 'ol hurry, it seemed, despite their slow decline) was at least sightly a relief, because they had not been *themselves* for such a long time. Sadly most of my memories of GG (who died when I was about 16) are of her being very old, very frail, and very confused. Grandpa I remember a bit better since I saw so much of him as a kid, and Grammy - who died of plain old ordinary heart disease - I remember best of all, since she didn't lose her mind or spirits. It is Definitely better to remember them fully alive and in their right minds and spirits... maybe it really is a little easier when the end comes in a big hurry.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

I not particularly emtionally close but she does live in Tigard and has been around at family functions all my life. It was a shock.

[empressvesica.livejournal.com]

:(

There are no words, but I know how it is...seeing that decline is terrible.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

[redscorner.livejournal.com]

I'm not the greatest source of support for anyone lately, but if there is anything I can do for you, please let me know. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks for the offer and for the prayers.