So Sorry For Not Updating

[maevebran]

I know it's been since January since I updated. Life has been kicking my but for the last month and a half. Before that I haven't been doing much writing particularly fanfic and this journal was largely for my fanfic. I am most assuredly alive and might get back to writing one of these days.


So in March Nate and I went to Las Vegas and the Grand Canyon. It was a great trip and relaxing.

I was wrangling the 35-40 merchants for the big SCA demo my group does in the begging of May and got a call from my Mother-In-Law the day before the event. It turns out my Father-In-Law (whom I'd met once in the 15+years Nate an I have been married and that was when we went to visit him after we'd been married 2 years) had died in the middle of April. The In Laws have been divorced for 20+ years so it was sort of strange that the funeral home had tracked down my Mother-In-Law before they found my husband. Things are complicated and the fact that Jim died without a will in Texas and we're in Oregon complicates things further. Add to that that Jim sort of disowned my brother in law so that the bro-in-law doesn't want anything to do with anything. Everything falls to my husband to deal with, so I've been trying to help but there is not much I can do when it comes right down to it. Talking to Jim's few friends and neighbors, it turns out that Jim didn't admit to having a son let alone two sons. The hard thing was talking to neighbors and they all say how good a man Jim was and many of them didn't know Jim was dead until we had the estate sale. I was in the weird position of breaking the news to several neighbors and they about to cry and one didn't know Jim had sons. They thought he had no family. I say my husband is one of Jim's sons. This neighbor said "Let me see the son." It was weird. We hadn't heard from Jim in over 10 years and these neighbors are tearing up at the loss. All I want to do is slap my late Father-In-Law and say if you were such a good man why didn't you show it to your sons.

Then there is the fact that Jim's Mother lived with him until she died in 2005. (And we didn't know it until we got the call about Jim.) So cleaning out the house, I found the box, on top of the entertainment center, that had Grandma's ashes in it. The saga of Grandma's ashes is still on going and deserves a post all its own.

The SCA demo went well and I was also the event Steward for another event in the beginning of June.

But by in large the stuff with Jim's estate is taking up most of our time and energy. There is enough weird stuff that went/going on that there will be a black comedy script about it written because I've been in a either Laugh or cry mode since the beginning of May and I chose to laugh.

Comments

[vesta-aurelia.livejournal.com]

All I want to do is slap my late Father-In-Law and say if you were such a good man why didn't you show it to your sons.

Ah, yes. Been here. My sister is your husband. I'm the brother-in-law. :P

What it means is that Jim got dementia or some other brain issue--just enough that nobody noticed--then steeped in his new crazy for a few years with people who backed him up in it.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Maybe but it was hereditary then because His Mother basically ignored both boys after Jim divorced their Mother although I did find address books for both of them with both sons' addresses in them. It was weird.

[jessm78.livejournal.com]

Wow, what a tough situation, I'm so sorry you've had to deal with that. :( I've been going through some crazy stuff myself lately involving a medical issue... I'm getting better but sometimes it's hard to convince myself of that.

[maevebran.livejournal.com]

Thanks.

I hope your stuff gets cleared up soon. {hugs}

[jessm78.livejournal.com]

Thanks :)